So, how’ve you been?


Whoops. It’s been two and a half weeks, hasn’t it? I think I’ll stop googling “c-section incision infected” (it isn’t) and fill y’all in on life with two kids.

OH DEAR GOD MAKE IT STOP HELP ME HELP ME HELP MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.

Wait, let’s back up. Laurel Jeannette was born Friday, October 24 at 1:01 pm. Isn’t she cute?

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Okay, it’s not *that* bad, but it certainly hasn’t been a drama-free two-plus weeks. There was drama with my c-section (dr got pulled into a delivery just as my spinal block had been administered — you know things aren’t going to plan when the anesthesiologist goes “No! No! No!” and runs from the room), drama in the recovery room (I had some heart palpitations during the surgery, so I got a bonus EKG and CBC and discussions about cardiologists and internists!), drama with nursing (baby no latchy! pumping and bottle feeding and chapped nipples and multiple visits to the lactation consultant! joy!), and now, drama because baby Laurel hasn’t gained enough weight (she was 8lb, 5oz at birth, dropped to 7lb, 12oz in hospital, and has been holding steady at 8lbs since her one-week checkup last week). She’s nursing and latching consistently now, though, so I’m hoping that increasing the caloric value of my milk (the ped said not to restrict and eat lots of protein), pumping off foremilk before nursing, and waking baby every 3 hours to feed will help.

(It did — since I started this post FIVE DAYS AGO, she’s gained about 7 ounces, so we’re rocking and rolling over here.) The trick, we’re learning the hard way, is to find a balance between meeting our own needs and the two children’s. Harry is doing … okay with his dethroning, but he definitely misses getting all of the attention all of the time. I hate that Matt and I get barky with him more often than not, but we also do a good job (I think) of keeping each other in check and reminding each other to be compassionate with the three-year-old who’s now got a squalling, red-faced ball of competition with whom to contend.

So, balance. We needz it. I know it will come, but that there will be lots trial and error with lots of good and bad days in between. I just keep telling myself that we know lots of people who have survived having two kids and that their families appear to be pretty happy and well-adjusted, so there’s hope for us yet.

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9 Comments

  1. Lordy does that sound familiar.

    My biggest post-C section disaster was in fact an infected incision, which required 6 weeks of extra care with the aptly named wound care doctors. Good luck with the sweet girl; she will gain weight with ease and you and your family will become one of those well-adjusted families with two kids. And that C-section incision will get better.

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  2. Jen

     /  November 11, 2008

    Congrats to all of you! Laurel is just gorgeous!

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  3. lisa

     /  November 12, 2008

    Awesome pic of M&H together!

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  4. Hang in there! It will be better! Miss you guys lots.

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  5. gimpy

     /  November 13, 2008

    Yes, Laurel is cute!!! Thanks for the update; I’ve been waiting.

    And, I have every confidence in the four of you …

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  6. Montana Mike

     /  November 15, 2008

    Glad to hear you’re doing well. As mentioned to Matt, Laurel is a precious pearl of a girl!

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  7. Congrats, pretty lady! What a beautiful family!

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  8. Jagdeep Singh Virdi

     /  November 18, 2008

    the C- section part was way above my head… ! all i could see in ur blog was your cute little daughter.2 children will just be fine. It seems when i was born my sisters will not allow anyone to touch me. I was their favourite doll… ha ha… Nice Blog… 🙂

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  9. Jenny

     /  December 9, 2008

    Hey, we’ve had to change computers, and I’ve lost my address book. Would you mind shooting me an email when you have a chance? Thanks.

    Hope all is well with all of you. And I hope your absence here is a sign of happiness and successful adjustment.

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